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World Down Syndrome Day 2018: More Alike Than Different

Just a little something we whipped up for World Down Syndrome Day! Love these kiddos!

How Do I Love Her – Video Version

A mom friend and fellow blogger flagged up this website to me that allows you to turn your blog posts into videos. I gave it a try with this post that I had written for World Down Syndrome Day last year and really loved the way it came out. It got great response on my Facebook page and I’ve been asked to post it here. So here it is….! How Do I Love Her? Just like you love your kids

#morealikethandifferent

Down Syndrome Awareness Month: Day 18

I really love sharing about Down syndrome for October and I so appreciate all of your wonderful feedback about Frankie and how well she is doing. But sometimes I get the impression that people feel that because she is doing so awesomely, she is somehow an exception to the Down syndrome rule and that our experience is rare.

So I just wanted to take a minute to say she’s not and it’s not. Social media has been an invaluable tool for us in so many ways, but mostly it brings a global DS community right into our home and allows us to cheer the successes of our “friends” all over the world. These kids impress us every day with their strength, their intellect and their abilities. We watch videos of them climbing and running and jumping and talking and singing and reading (yes, reading at 2.5!). The range of accomplishments is staggering and it’s a joy to see each one discover their own strengths and weaknesses.

Yes, we have been blessed in many ways, but Frankie is definitely not some kind of Down syndrome prodigy. I’m not sure if it’s because we are seeing more about kids with DS online and in the media. Or maybe constantly improving health care, research and therapy has something to do with it. I would bet that it’s probably a combination of both, but people with Down syndrome are so much more capable than they’re given credit for.

So, please take a second to just look at these beautiful little faces who are all around the same age as Frankie and know that they are absolutely rocking their extra chromosome too!

Down Syndrome Awareness Month: Day 17

Children with Down syndrome often have tiny ear and nasal passages. And that low tone I mentioned yesterday actually affects internal organs as well. It can make airways, that are already smaller than average, floppy.

When Frankie was a newborn, she made a horrible and scary noise when she was sleeping – it was called stridor and was a symptom of her narrow esophagus. She has had a few bouts of croup – the first of which came on 2 hours into an 8 hour flight from London to New York. And perhaps most scary, she has had several choking incidents. The worst one earned us an ambulance ride to the ER. Thankfully she was fine but it was terrifying.

Frankie regularly sees the ENT to make sure all is well, but all of the above, as well as apnea, chronic ear infections and enlarged tonsils/adenoids, are all par for the course with DS and compounded by those tiny ear and nasal passages.

These are all things that typical children can experience as well, but they seem to grow out of them quicker than kids with DS. Thankfully I think we are finally coming out the other end for most of these inflictions…but don’t be surprised if you see me still cutting tangerines segments in half!

Down Syndrome Awareness Month: Day 16

Frankie has low muscle tone, as do almost all children with Down syndrome. It also affects many kids on the autism spectrum and sometimes even the typical population. If you imagine the fibers that make up a muscle, in people with low tone they’re just not as dense. It doesn’t mean she’s not strong. She just has to work harder to achieve the same results. She is actually really physical and walked relatively early for a baby with DS – first steps at 16 months and full-time walker from 18 months.

Frankie is terrific at motor planning as well – she is great at figuring things out. The other day I stood in front of her, legs spread wide in order to block her way. She looked to my left, then to my right and then gave me one of her sly little smiles, tipped back her doll stroller and pushed it and herself right through my legs.

She also has a surprising sense of spatial awareness. Just seconds after I took this video the stroller veered toward a car parked next to the sidewalk. I panicked and lunged, but she righted herself and continued on her way. As she pretty much always does.

Down Syndrome Awareness Month: Day 15

The other night I was showing Seb the pictures of the kids that I had taken that day on my phone, as we do almost every night. He got to this one and zoomed in. “Gosh, she’s beautiful, isn’t she?” he said.

First off, if you know him, you know things like that don’t come out of his mouth very often. And I’m sure several of you are going to pipe in and say how gorgeous she is (I’m looking at you, Mom!). But that’s not what this is about.

You know what surprised me most about having a child with Down syndrome? It’s just how “normal” life is. How we spend our evenings talking about the smart, funny, adorable things BOTH our kids did today. How we are so proud of their accomplishments big and small. How we are still so taken aback by just how beautiful they are! Probably exactly the way you feel about your kids, too.

I’m ashamed to admit that when Frankie was born, I was worried she wouldn’t be pretty. I let my heart and mind be ruled by what I thought I knew about Down syndrome. But the reality is beauty and Down syndrome have nothing to do with one another. I think she’s breathtaking because she’s got an unbreakable spirit and a fire in her eyes. And because she’s mine.

Down Syndrome Awareness Month: Day 14

This picture perfectly sums up ballet class this morning. For the first half, Frankie was super engaged and following along so well and so enthusiastically. But half way through she lost interest. She kept getting up from her spot, rifling through the props in the corner, even snuck into the neighboring class. Chasing after her was physically exhausting. But even more draining was the feeling that the other parents attribute this behavior to her having Down syndrome.

I know in my heart that this is not a DS thing – she is just that uber curious 2 year old I posted about earlier this month. And it’s true I’m just making assumptions about what the other parents think. But it’s something I feel self conscious about – when she is not a perfect angel people think it’s because of DS.

But here’s the thing – when Frankie is a beastie, it’s because Frankie. Is. A. Beastie. Anyone who knows her can attest to that. She can turn it on and off at will – if it weren’t so funny it’d be scary! Down syndrome doesn’t define her. She is a Terrible Two Year Old first!

As for me, I’ve got to work on letting it go and not worrying what other people think. Soon enough those other parents will see her range of abilities too…or maybe their kid will sneak into the class next door and I won’t feel so bad anymore!

Down Syndrome Awareness Month: Day 13

This morning a grandmother in one of the Facebook groups I belong to posted about how proud she was of her talented granddaughter and included a link to a piece by an NBC affiliate. Intrigued, I clicked. It was a story about Sophia Pineda and showed her creating some amazingly stunning paintings, like the one of this hummingbird. Sophia is just 14 years old. And she happens to have Down syndrome.

14 years old!

With Down syndrome!

I know, right?!?! I love stories like this because it makes the point so beautifully: Having DS does NOT preclude someone from having talent – and prodigious talent at that! I can’t wait to see where Frankie’s talents lie. Her future is as bright as anyone else’s.

Sophia’s website is live, unfortunately the shop won’t be up until 2018. But I really hope you’ll remember her name if and when you need to buy a teacher’s gift or need some stationary or art for your home.

Check out her gallery for the hummingbird and more at www.sophiola.com

Down Syndrome Awareness Month: Day 12

This video is long, but I think it’s such a beautiful example of inclusion. We don’t know what Frankie’s school experience is going be, but I’m hoping it can look something like this. I’ve already been in touch with our local school – Tristan’s school – about her and so far they’ve been really welcoming and talk as if it’s a given that she’ll go there. Our fingers are tightly crossed.

Ruby’s Inclusion story / rubysrainbow.org

Down Syndrome Awareness Month: Day 1

Hello! Remember us?

You might be aware that October is Down syndrome awareness month.

I am hoping to post something every day that will give you some insight into what life is like with a child with DS. Basically, it wont be all that different from what I do anyway over on my personal Facebook page, but I hope that at the end of the month you’ll all take a second to look back at #amonthinthelife and it will reaffirm what I’m always going on about – that Frankie is more alike than different!

I will also be throwing out some fun facts about Down syndrome and maybe a blog post or two (I make NO promises). But I also want to invite any questions you might have about D’S that you’d like us to have a crack at answering for you. Please fire away!

So, until tomorrow…! I leave you with Miss F’s formidable first attempt at ping pong…

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